Dirty Sock Charges
More CPS reports originate with schools, than any from other place.
Hi my name is Rose, I'm a single mother of 4 boys. Just this past Monday I got a phone call. I found out that we are under investigation by CPS.
The investigator informed me that he had already talked to my child at his school. He was very nosy ask me a couple questions like what are you doing now and things.
I told him that I had to go pick up my son. He said, "Oh, Joseph."
I said, "No, My oldest."
He never even knew I had more children. He started asking more questions when I stopped him and ask him what this was about. He never came out and told me, matter of fact, beat around the bush about it, then told me just a little. He said he needed to come out.
I told him my schedule. I work and this week had several appointments, anyway, he came out yesterday. I answered questions and he talked to most of my kids.
He said the allegations were that my son went to school one day with no socks, one day with dirty socks and that he wore the same outfit to school for 4 days straight. This is nuts! I have a 15-, 13-, 7-, and 5- year-old.
I'm not perfect and neither is my family but this is a crock someone at this school Joseph has only attended for 4-months now, is trying to cause my family harm. We haven't lived in this area of town very long but I have learned that it's not a very nice one.
I need to know what to do, how do I protect my family? What are my rights? I need some support. Can you give me some kind of direction, something please?
Thank you so much,
Rose,
Huntington, West Virginia
Labels: CPS, false accusation, West Virginia
posted by Annette M. Hall @ 4/21/2007 09:36:00 AM
6 Comments:
You have been targeted. You are now in for the fight of your (and your children's) life. If you are a single mother, it's that much worse for you, because they love to go after somebody who has no other adult support. They are criminals and you are now their intended victim. So EVERY word you say to them WILL be used against you. Best help that anybody can give you now is to convince you and your children to say NOTHING to any of these people. Impress on their young, innocent minds that they are NOT to talk to anybody about anything. And that means ANYTHING. None of these people are their friends now. ALL of the school administrators and teachers can be considered your enemy. There may be somebody there who would actually help, but they are looking at losing their job if they do.
The next thing you must do is read, read, read. Educate yourself real fast by going to the help section of this and other websites - like fightcps.com
You must now become the extremely defensive mother fighting for her children's lives, because if you don't, you WILL lose them and their lives will likely be ruined by these creeps. I have seen it may times before and have actually been able to help a couple of friends fight these demonic creeps, one of which turned out to be a pedophile - actually working FOR a local CPS organization! The child involved suppresed the memory of what the CPS worker had done - while in a school conference room - until a child psychologist helped the memory surface. At that point the psychologist was required to report the incident. But the police detective who was investigating this CPS worker suddenly dropped the case and was rewarded by being appointed police chief two weeks later. He not only wouldn't pursue the matter, but when confronted about his dropping the case, actually threatened the mother if she ever made these facts known. "To protect and serve" - yeah right, who?
So you are in for a fight. Some people never get their kids back after losing them. Some people see the writing on the wall and are lucky enough to get out of the state before things get bad enough, or they're wealthy enough (and lucky enough) to find an attorney who is capable of fighting these vampires.
But you MUST first of all protect yourself and your kids by training them to be silent and training them to not trust ANYBODY but yourself, and any other family member who feels as strong about this as you must now be.
Read some of the horror stories (especially the one about Diane Booth - an "email friend" of mine) and you'll see what can happen.
Good luck
I am extremely sympathetic to those who are wrongly accused, and very aware that too many children are removed for poverty and false complaints...but my questions is this: do you draw ANY line whatsoever? Does ANYTHING constitute genuine abuse here on this site? Do you support Joel Steinberg?
Do you ever see any parent - or adopter - as GUILTY of what they are charged with?
Do you think caging children is a legitimate solution for a troubled child when professional psychological help was never sought? Do you really call that "misguided" but acceptable??? Do you think it EVER acceptable to punish children by denying them food? And if the children had sexual acting our problems, why were nude provocative photos found of one of the children? Did they take those themselves - would they have been give a camera when they weren't given food or shoes?
If you see nothing wrong here, are all as demented and sociopathic as the Gravelles and Vasquez.
Those of you with LEGITIMATELY false claims out to get some other help and not align yourself with a group who defends people like this! Try contacting CCRP.
God help you all...
You ask some very good questions that I would like to answer. I am very concerned about actual child abuse; trust me I've seen more than I care to.
I have no idea who Joel Steinberg is and what his agenda is. Sorry.
I have had people call me for advice that have admitted their own guilt. I've tried to off ways for them to get the help they need.
My problem is that most true cases of abuse are not life threatening, in fact, most are neglect issues caused by drug abusing parents. It's epidemic. Many of these parents (and subsequently the children) could be helped if services were offered to the family.
It makes me sick that the state will remove these children from their parents and pay foster parents, when if the money was directed at services for the family, many could be saved.
You see when child neglect and even mild abuse affects a family; the children are abused, not just once but twice. First when the parent can't copy and lashes out at the child or neglects them, then your helpful childcare worker removes that child from the home, causing emotional abuse.
The Gravelle's were railroaded plain and simple. The state had an agenda and decided to make examples of this family. These so-called cages were necessary to protect these children. You can't possibly understand, unless you've tried to raise a special needs child yourself. My own grandchild sleeps in a locked room, in an enclosure to protect him from harm.
He has been found to get out of the house at night and wander the streets. Parents do what they feel they must to protect their children. The Gravelle's never claimed to be perfect parents. I've spent hours and hours on the phone with Sharen and there is simply no way those children were abused.
I have photo's of my own son that would be considered pornography by filthy minds of the state. Does that mean I'm a child abuser? Children are cute and when I was growing up, it was customary to have at least one or two embarrassing photo's of the children to tease them with at their wedding. There is nothing perverse about it.
It is my firm belief that most children are better off with their own parents. When children are removed from a family that needs help they suffer not only the abuse or neglect, they suffer emotionally, when the state puts them in a home with strangers, and allows them zero contact with friends and family. This can devastate a child.
It is the obligation of the caseworker to make every attempt to local suitable relatives with which to place the child, if removal is warranted. Very few caseworkers take the time to even look, they take the course of least resistance, placing them with strangers.
Many of those same children will suffer sexual abuse in that foster home and sometimes even death. Making the solution worse than the crime and the children are the ones who suffer.
Millions of families are being torn apart due to false accusations, lazy or over-worked caseworkers and the children will leave with the after math of this compound abuse for the rest of their lives. I'm living proof of that.
I will never forget how caseworkers moved me around the state, with no regard to my personal feelings; how I was forced to sleep with a stranger, in a strange bed. I was placed in a home with cockroaches, something we never had at home. When my foster father sexually molested me, I was accused of lying and told to pack my bags. Well I didn't even take the time to pack; I ran out the back door and never looked back.
It's a rotten system and no one should have to live at the pleasure of the state, who has ill-regard for the needs of children.
Lastly, this is not an organization. I am a wife, a mother, a former foster child and a parent, who hopes that the information posted here will help another family protect their children from harm.
Thanks for writing.
I am sorry to say that today I am fighting my own battle with cps because my half-sister called. She does not agree with my medication and therapy choices for my five-year old bipolar child. She believes I should be medicating more than I want to at this stage in her young life. So now I stand accused of abuse and neglect. My how everything comes full circle!
I do believe there are true cases of abuse out there and those people should be punished. However, think about how much more punishment that poor helpless child will receive at the hands of cps after they are "saved."
Keep up the fight, my friend, and know that those of us who were suffering in foster care with you completely understand.
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